8 Valuable Life Lessons You Need to Learn Now
Life is not always easy. We learn as we go. We gain knowledge through our life experiences, valuable lessons that improve the quality of our lives. If only we could learn those lessons earlier so that we could avoid some of life’s potholes. Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t work that way. Wisdom comes with age. That’s a fact of life. However, we can if we carefully listen and observe, learn from the lessons of those who’ve gone before us who have faced the challenges that we now face.
Lessons worth learning
Take it slow
We’ve all heard that old saying, “it’s a marathon, not a sprint,” but we don’t live as though we truly believe it. There are so many things we want to achieve, so much we want to get done, that we feel as if we have to hurry in order to fit it all in. The reality is, that life is long, and we have plenty of time to experience and accomplish those things that we desire.
Most of us are impatient by nature, always anxious to get to the next thing, but by living in that mindset of busyness and rushing, we miss the opportunity to actually enjoy those things that we want so badly.
Stop looking for approval
We spent far too much time worrying about what other people think of us. We waste our energy looking for approval and validation from others. While it’s important to listen to and consider the thoughts and opinions of those around us, we need to be careful not to internalize those opinions as fact.
The truth is that the perceptions of others are really more about them than they are about us. We tend to judge others through the filter of our own set of beliefs about what is good and bad, acceptable and not. Therefore, we need to keep in mind, that while there may be in fact some value and wisdom in the opinions of others, we need to keep them in the proper perspective and not allow them to define us.
Life is happening today
This may be the single most important lesson that we can ever learn. Life is happening today, tomorrow will happen tomorrow. Pay attention to what’s happening around you, be mindful of what you are doing and feeling, and enjoy what you are experiencing right now, in the current moment of your life.
That doesn’t mean don’t take action. The actions we take and the decisions we make today, greatly influence how we experience tomorrow and the many days to come. If something is truly important, don’t put it off until tomorrow or “someday” in the future. Work toward your dreams today. If you wait until tomorrow, it may never come.
Put the past where it belongs
What happened in the past belongs in the past. Don’t drag it with you into today. It’s a waste of time and energy to focus on past failures, conflicts, and disappointments. Don’t carry resentment, or anger into the future. Learn from the past, and then let it go. It’s over. It cannot be changed.
If others have mistreated us in some way, we must forgive-though it may be difficult at times-and move on. If we have been the one to cause pain to others, we can only make amends and resolve to do better in the future. Dwelling on what has already happened keeps us from moving forward and realizing the full potential of our futures. Guilt, anger, and hurt from the past eat away at our ability to be happy in our lives now.
Believe in yourself
The truth, though we often refuse to believe it, is that each of us has something of value and worth to offer. We must hold the belief that we are worthy that we are competent that we are capable of great things. We all have a negative critic within us that we must learn to ignore while at the same time we need to rid courage our inner cheerleader. If we don’t believe in ourselves, no one else will either.
We are capable of far more than we can possibly imagine. Though we will make mistakes and experience failure, that does not mean that we are incapable of success. In fact, learning from those mistakes will make us wiser and far more likely to achieve success in the future.
Money is not the goal
While money is certainly necessary, and important, it shouldn’t be the goal, but rather one of the tools we used to live. We want nice things, we need money to live, and it is often certainly true that having more money, allows us more freedom in our choices. However, money is not a guarantee of happiness, and it cannot protect us from pain and suffering.
Money is often, not even the best motivator. What we really want is loving relationships, to contribute something of value, pride in a job well done, satisfaction in growing and stretching ourselves, being successful at what we do and so on. It’s the accomplishments, the relationships, passion, and satisfaction that bring us happiness, not the money we accumulate along the way.
Integrity is everything
Don’t be afraid to speak out and stand up for what you believe in. Never lose your integrity, it’s an important part of self-respect and your opinion of yourself. If you feel very strongly about something don’t be afraid to stand up and be heard, even if you are in the minority.
One person, one voice, one dissenting opinion can make a difference. By speaking up, you may be able to affect change for the better. If you feel that something is unfair, dishonest, or cruel, say so. It takes courage to stand up for what we feel is right and to stay true to our values, but it makes all the difference in how we view ourselves.
Be positive and resilient
It’s not always easy to remain positive when things seem to be going all wrong. Life is not always easy, there will be pain and suffering, heartache and cruelty, disappointment and fear. Those things are real. We don’t need to be a Pollyanna, denying the negative in our lives, but we can choose the way we view what occurs in our lives.
Try to look for the good in people. Celebrate the wonderful moments in life. View temporary failures as valuable lessons. See difficulties as opportunities for growth. Give encouragement rather than criticism. Give helpful encouragement rather than negative criticism. Be helpful whenever possible. Be kind, be generous, and be forgiving, both to others and to yourself.
Slow down. Be patient. Think for yourself. Your opinion is what matters most. Life is what’s happening right now. Leave the past behind you. Let go and move on. Believe in yourself first. You are capable of great things. It’s not about the money. Integrity matters. Stand up for what you believe in. Stay positive. Learn and grow.
Life is all about learning and using what you have learned to move forward into a better future.